What is wrong with interracial marriages? Absolutely nothing. You may hear people advise against them, and think that it is close-minded, or racist to do such a thing, but the fact is, it is often just advice to make marriage a little easier. The following is a look at the drawbacks to interracial marriages.
These drawbacks do not mean the marriage can't or won't work, and that they should not take place, it is just an accounting of some of the common obstacles that two people of different races face when they get married.1. Differences in culture. Usually culture is very closely tied to race. In some cases this is not true, but in many it is. For example, those of Spanish decent tend to be very family oriented, and are often found living with much extended family under one roof, parents, children, grandchildren, etc. Indian culture places more importance on the male role, etc. So, often when people of two different races marry, they bring two separate cultures together. If he comes from a culture where the man is the provider, and the woman's role is to care for children, and she comes from a culture where women independence and ability is admired, she may take issue with being asked to stay home with the children. The cultural differences can meld together to create a wonderful, learning environment in which the relationship flourishes, or it can act as an obstacle to the couple to grow together and create the intimate bonds that marriage often facilitates.
2. Outside objections or speculations. While this should not affect the marriage, often ridicule can make you doubt yourself and your choices. While most people would not think twice about a couple of two different ethnicities, some do, and can be very vocal about it. If you experience this, and have to face the constant ridicule, or speculations of why you would marry outside your race, it could become very difficult to deal with. Given enough of it, you may start to question yourself, which may lead to a disillusionment of the marriage.
3. Different races often think differently, which may lead to communication obstacles. As mentioned in the first point, different races place importance on different things, and these values effect the way people communicate. Without understanding how the person places value, and their line of thinking communication may become problematic. For example, he may assume that his wife will not have a problem with his mom moving in because in his culture that is a given. However, it may be difficult for her that he did not consult her, and may make her feel like he is choosing his mother over her. These differences, and gaps in communication caused by the different ways of thinking can lead to marriage problems.
Every marriage is going to face obstacles, relationships are often difficult. They are require constant care, attention, and nurturing. So, when people advise against interracial marriages, it is a matter of trying to get people to have as few obstacles as they can. Marriage is hard enough without the added pressures, expectations, and differences that come when people from two different races marry.